We are all flawed humans, and we all need to be more proactive in some parts of our lives. This article comes from my observations and personal experience as a teacher, coach and human. I spend a lot of time one on one with many different people on a daily basis, and this gives me a little bit of an insight into our learning process and how we view that process. I’ve also learnt a few things from other people along the way (credit to Mr Dan Meredith).
The first thing you need to do if you want to be successful in exams, work and life (i.e. happy), is take responsibility for your own learning and your own life. It’s nobody else’s responsibility, not your parents’, not your partner’s, not your boss’, not your teachers’, not your coach’s: it´s you and only you who can succeed. This is your legacy, your blood, your sweat and your tears, no one else´s. I have said this to several students and some have reacted positively and some have given up. I think both decisions were correct.
Nobody can make you learn or do anything, you have to like it and want it. You don’t necessarily have to like the thing you are doing in that moment, but you have to love the journey that it forms a part of. I personally don’t like learning about Facebook ads and analytics, but I know it’s useful and I love the process of building businesses, writing and coaching. So in a strange way, when I learn about Facebook ads and analytics, I enjoy it, almost like scratching an itch.
DECISIONS = BEHAVIOUR
Behaviour is a manifestation of decisions, not conditions. As Franklin Covey stressed in his best-selling book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “Response-ability” is your ability to choose your response to a situation or an environment.
Too many people do the exact opposite and blame their behaviour on their situation or their conditions. Even worse, they blame their current situation on their past situation. This makes them feel like it’s not their fault, but is the equivalent of going into a McDonalds today because you went yesterday, and then complaining that you want pizza. Get a grip.
People who succeed at an activity do not blame their situation for their lack of success, and they definitely don’t blame it on a lack of ability.
People who succeed take action and actively learn how they can change things that they wish to change. If they want to learn a language they research how best to learn a language and then they go out there and do it EVERY DAY because they love the process of getting better and challenging themselves. If they want to set up a business they research and research and research and try and fail until they succeed. You don’t already do this, it’s definitely not too late, start now.
It comes back to loving the process. If you love what you are doing, then failures and mistakes are not failures or mistakes, they are another step forward in the journey to your inevitable success.
Mistakes and failures are fun, because they are learning opportunities and they teach you more than your successes. If you enjoy what you are doing, then your current situation doesn´t concern you as much, because you are too busy enjoying it.